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.In theovercoming of any friction present, such growth may be accelerated.While motives for marrying varyit is hardly likely that a couple, however strong their desire for self-development may be, will go out of their way to seek a partner whose character is completely alien to their own.But it is often the case that before marriage they are apparently oblivious to defects of character in each other than couldcause serious problems once the first blissfully ecstatic aura of the marriage has begun to fade away.Love is blind!If an astrologer is consulted before marriage, his problem may lie in deciding just how much strainand friction the partnership can reasonably be expected to cope with.There are certain well-established rules by which the degree of compatibility between two partners may fairly accurately beestimated at the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual level.If there is a reasonable degree ofmutual sympathy, the willingness of each partner to adjust to the other can relax the tensionssuggested by a number of theoretically discordant cross-aspects, which sometimes mean that onepartner may be the cause of involving the other in difficulties or added responsibilities perhaps as a result of ill health, loss of earning power or the requirements of work necessitating long absencesfrom home.On the other hand, a basic lack of tolerance may result in even minor annoyances assuming majorproportions.In this respect, even physical compatibility becomes important as, for instance, if one of the partners is a "fresh air fiend" and the other is vulnerable to the slightest draught.And if physical attraction should play a disproportionately prominent role in the partnership it might be prudent toobserve whether one partner was likely to age more quickly than the other.The possible barrennessor sterility of a partner could also be crucial in a marriage where both husband and wife desiredchildren and there was insufficient support and mutual understanding in the partnership.Such aproblem can sometimes be solved by the couple adopting a child, in which case a comparison of thechild's nativity with those of the prospective foster-parents could provide very use-ful guidance.If the parents' nativities show, through the conditions of the fifth house, difficulties involving children, as they are very likely to do if the couple cannot achieve natural parenthood, it may not be possible tofind a candidate for adoption whose horoscope is compatible to the desired degree with those of thefoster-parents.In the case of a couple who adopted two children, a boy and a girl, the husband had a conjunction ofVenus and Uranus in the fifth house, with Mercury there in opposition to Neptune.His wife hadNeptune in the fifth house in opposition to Uranus.The boy was wayward and difficult to bring up, and eventually had to be sent away to a school that specialized in dealing with rebellious children.After leaving school he returned home but found difficulty in establishing a satisfactory relationship with his foster-parents and eventually left home to settle in Australia.In a different way, it never seemedpossible to reach an entirely satisfactory understanding with their adopted daughter.She, too, lefthome soon after her school days were over, to set up house with a married man.As a result of heraction a quarrel ensued which resulted in a rupture of the relationship with her foster-parents.The conjunction of Venus and Uranus in the husband's chart did not indicate separation or divorce but, occurring in his fifth house, showed the unconventional behavior of his adopted daughter and thebreaking of the contact between parents and children.Between married couples, compatibility on the emotional level may be very well established whilemental interests remain wide apart, so that much will depend on the strength of the various linksbetween their nativities as to whether a lack of true intellectual rapport becomes a major handicap to the establishment of lasting harmony.According to popular belief, "marriages are made in heaven," while the marriage service speaks of"those whom God hath joined together." In the opinion of the writer the mere performance of the marriage ritual, even in a church, does not guarantee that the couple concerned has established atrue rapport at the spiritual level.Heaven is a state of consciousness—"heaven is within"—and so for a marriage to be made in heaven requires that true rapport must exist at the highest state ofconsciousness to which human beings can attain.It is that state of consciousness where manbecomes truly aware of the nature of the Divine.Rapport at this level signifies a real inner union in that ideal state where all humanity is seen to be One Whole —hence those who are joined together inmutual understanding on this level are truly united by God, and this understanding can never bebroken.Those who have only established a form of harmony between themselves mainly as the result ofsome physical attraction, or at the emotional or intellectual level may find that this is not sufficient to enable them to build a lasting partnership.On the other hand some partnerships that endure may doso in spite of a lack of a true spiritual rapport, perhaps because the partners feel compelled to remain together through a sense of duty or for some less laudable reason.The marriage vow is regarded by the Church as something sacred that cannot be set aside.The finalvows taken by a nun are similarly binding and symbolize the nun's acceptance of the role of a "bride of Christ." Yet until the final vows are taken, the nun is given every opportunity to find out whether she is suited to her demanding role, while in the case of marriage in its worldly form no such opportunities for a "trial run" are countenanced by the Church! It is therefore hardly to be wondered at that some couples feel disinclined to go through the religious ritual, when a civil authority is less demanding in terms of the standards to which it expects the couple to conform.It also becomes easier to appreciate why some prefer to dispense altogether with the marriage ceremony.Not all such liaisons unblessedby an official wedding ceremony end ignominiously.Some may be "made in heaven" even although the partners do not go through the motions of an accepted wedding ceremony.The astrologer takes a great deal of responsibility on his or her shoulders when agreeing to passjudgment on the degree of compatibility between prospective marriage partners.It should never bethe astrologer's function to tell clients what they should do, but rather to indicate to them as clearly as possible the strong points and the weaknesses of their relationship [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]